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By: Candice Sabrina

You have always been an avid read of your horoscope and even check it out on-line every day after you get work. It is fun to read and to think about the "what ifs" in life. They are usually broad and open ended statements that could fit into any number of different situations that occur daily in your life.

Did you know that now there are romance horoscopes that tell you what is going to happen to you on a certain day, at a certain time with certain other astrological signs? Wow, if you really believe this, you will be living on the edge, attempting to read into each statement a special message of love and romance.

So, what is your romance horoscope saying? They normally give you a basic definition based on the positions of the sun, moon and planets exactly as they were positioned at the time of your birth, so you must know the exactly time of your birth. The charts are interpretation by astrologers and they then provide you with a horoscope reading.

You can get a daily, weekly, monthly, or even yearly chart made for you. Your specially interpreted chart will include predictions for all facets of your life. Today, however, the most popular is the predictions that relate directly to your romantic relationships and your love life-are you going to meet that 'special' person, get dumped or even get married? They will explain all of this to you.

They will also provide you with information on your own individual characteristics and your compatibility with other astrological signs as they relate to your romantic relationships in dating and marriages.

Your individual romance horoscope is based on the theory that the planets have a strong effect on you, your character, your personality, and your destiny. This allows you to gain a better understanding of yourself within your romantic relationships and allows you to see the general patterns of your life, the meaning of your behaviors, and your natural compatibility with others. Additionally, they say that it gives you a better understanding of your partner, their behaviors, and their compatibility with you.

You can continue to read your daily horoscope as you always done in the past, or you can go to an astrologer and they will plot everything for you and provide you with information on everything you need to know about your future as it relates to your romance horoscope.

Of course, this costs money and there are more and more internet sites and local companies that offer to perform this service for you. If you believe that everything in your life is ruled by the position of the planets, getting a professional romance horoscope might be perfect for you.

You would have the report prepared by a professional astrologer who can explain the meaning of the romance horoscope and how it directly affects you and your relationships with others. You never know, they might send you off in the correct direction where you will meet Mr. or Ms. Right and start a lifelong relationship with that person.

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All the time you’ve been reading this, you may have had the thought “This guy doesn’t understand. How can I spend time finding love and romance when I have children to take care of or have time consuming responsibilities at work?” Sometimes both. I’d like to address these issues in some detail since so many women fall into one or both of these categories.

Women With Children

I happened to see the Oprah Winfrey Show on a day when they were featuring a number of women, who were stressed out, stay at home moms. The stresses on working mothers with children vary slightly, but are just as problematic, if not more so. I’ll ultimately relate this to your dating situation.

While the program dealt with women who worked in the home, its principles are just as applicable to single moms who almost necessarily have to work outside the home. Being a single parent is very difficult. Not only because all the parental work falls on one person, but because there is rarely much time left for yourself. When there is a couple, one parent can escape to his/her room or just go out for a while. When you’re a single parent often there may be no escape, day in and day out. A further problem is that there is most often no other adult in the house to help you handle stress, to talk about things with, to assist with discipline or to take over when you need a break.

I am in great admiration of all single parents. I had enough trouble being a Dad of four children with an excellent and supportive wife, who was also a model mother.

But what about you? What do you do for fun? Where does love come from for you? Have you lost “yourself” because you are acting as a single parent? You can't continue to let this happen to you. Perhaps what is below may help.

The Oprah Winfrey Show featured a “life coach”, Martha Beck, author of “Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming The Life You Were Meant To Have”. One mother featured on the show, who I believe had at least three, and perhaps four children, compared herself to the woman in Alfred Hitchcock’s movie “The Birds”, saying she felt like she was being “pecked to death” by children's needs: games, practices, lessons, religion classes, plays, recitals, basketball, karate, meals, lunches, problems, lack of time, rushing, etc., etc. Sound familiar? She said she found herself overscheduled and stressed and that she was snapping out, anxious and that it was “making her crazy”.

Ms. Beck mentioned a number of important things that I would like to pass on to you. She asked the mother,

“As a teenager, what were your dreams and goals, if nothing could stand in your way?”

Ask yourself that. Here is the essence of some of her ideas: (not exact quotes):

“Do not give up your own hopes and dreams to take care of everyone else’s… Never do to yourself what you wouldn’t do to your children."

(Would you want your children not to have hopes and dreams?) When you live day to day as a “doormat”, you are teaching your children to be doormats. Love your own life. And you will teach your children that. Do not just give up. Nurture yourself.

Your principal job is not to be a servant, but to be like a Mother Bear. She teaches her cubs to hunt, so they can hunt for themselves. Then the mother doesn’t have to do it anymore. Teach your children to do for themselves. It will help you, and it will make them stronger and more capable. (They showed a young daughter loading the dishwasher and folding clothes. Kids learn quickly and can do much more than we think. Mothers who are overstressed just have to let up a bit because children do not do the job “their way". Keep coaching. They’ll get better – and you’ll get freer.)

Clean up what’s inside of you before you clean up what’s around you, Ms. Beck says: simplify, organize and de-clutter. Do not lose your “self” in your kids. Make to do lists. Focus on what you really need to do. Let the rest of it go. Set your goals. What contributes to them keep? Let things that do not contribute to it go. Put each of your goals on a separate sticky note, post them and use them to guide your activities. Delegate to children. Spend money to get help you need, if you can. It will be the best money you ever spent. (Get yourself over the hump.) Plan a once a year adventure. Start working out to become more physically fit and better able to deal with the stress. (Go to a health club. Maybe you’ll meet somebody there.) Focus on what really matters to you. Do not feel guilty about what you didn’t do. (You’re doing the best that you can.)

Have you heard something you never heard before that just strikes you as being so true and sensible that it just blows you over? I heard something like that about parents and children. The best way to have happy children, is not to put them first, but to put your soulmate first. A happy relationship creates a better environment for children to grow up in, it sets a good model for them and it makes them more self-reliant and self- confident. It’s a good thing for one or both parents to think about, when they say “Our kids come first.” Put your relationship first, and everyone can come out the better for it. Similarly, if you have not found your love yet, put that first. Ultimately, you, your love and your children will all be the better for it.

Ms. Beck recommends using the time you save by delegating and cutting out unnecessary activities to do what you want. If you are someone who overcommits herself, learn to “just say no”. Tell whoever is asking, “I have other things I have to do.” Do not feel compelled to name them and do not make excuses. Your true friends will understand. And those who can’t, want what they want, rather than what you think is best for yourself. The problem with stress is that once you get to a certain point you can’t think straight and you lose your perspective. You’ve got to step back and take a hard look at the situation. Then take action. "Focus on what really matters to you."

Our Children
While we're on the subject, our children are the most important legacy that many of us leave. Raising children today, and protecting them, is not easy. I helped raise four. I encountered a site I want to call to your attention: Safechild.org
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Work Pressures

Some women’s work responsibilities requires working more than one job, long hours, working evenings and weekends, and may involve stress and travel. A woman’s time may be so taken with work that she has little free time for much else. Working mothers with children frequently live with a time deficit. The same principles Ms. Beck espoused above, can apply equally as well to those who work.

Look for ways to simply what you do. Can anything you do be delegated? It can free up time for you and help develop a co-worker at the same time. Is their any more modern equipment you could get, or ask the company to consider purchasing, that would make you more efficient on the job. Can off the job duties such as food shopping, ferrying children around, taking things to the cleaners, getting gas in the car, etc. be delegated? Can you get some stuff done at lunch time. Always take lunch. It gives you time to do something different and to re-group. Can you save time by leaving for work earlier or leaving later, and use the saving in commuting time to get more done? Can you commute to work with someone else, or take the train or the bus and get some work done on the way in or back? Can you hire some help?

This quotation has been so overused that I almost hate to mention it, but it is probably overworked because it is so true. Medical people sometimes are said to report that they never heard anyone who said on their deathbed, “I wish I had spent more time at work.” Figure out what’s really important to you. If one of those things is finding a love to share your time with, then you have got to make time for doing the things that are going to lead to that love.

A book profiled in the New York Times “Learning To Fall: The Blessing of An Imperfect Life” by Philip Simmons relates the impact of the author’s having contracted the fatal degenerative disease ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease). He was stricken in 1993 at the age of 35. He mentions a quote, good for all us to reflect on:

“A fuller consciousness of my own mortality has been my best guide to my being more fully alive”

Mr. Simmons readily admitted that he gained insights that he never would never had, had he not been stricken. Perhaps we can learn from what he has to share. Mr. Simmons died early in August of 2002 at the age of 45, but shared himself in a difficult time, for the benefit of others. We can all benefit from his wisdom.

A Time Magazine book review by Andrea Sachs reviewing the book "Married To The Job" by Ilene Philipson detailed how the author treated over 200 patients for overinvestment in work. The author says: "As Americans are working longer hours and investing emotionally in our jobs, we are simulateneously depleting our lives beyond work..." And then there are the hours spent on what she terms "electronic leashes": e-mail, laptops and cell phones. She believes overattachment to the workplace disproportionately affects women. 2/3rds of her clients were women, but they had 85% of the overinvestment in work problems. She says:

"A lot of women I've seen have traded the anticipation of having security emotionally and economically through marriage, to having security through work."

She suggests: "Imagine what it would feel like quitting your current job and experiencing what it would feel like. If you feel terrified and alone and without direction (without your job), it's time to consider stepping back."

What about her own work habits? She says she worked 55 hours per week in the '90's. She realized, by listening to her patients, that she wasn't much better off than they were. She reduced her work to 26 hours per week. The review asked "Is she happier now?" She said "I'm getting married soon -- to a man, rather than my job." There is a balance between conscientiousness, productivity and feeling good about yourself and having love filled existence. Review your situation. Make changes if you need to, to have the love you want. Do not postpone your happiness. You may have postponed it too long already. Think about it. Lives need balance.

Envision yourself looking back over the years when you are seventy five or eighty. Did you live it the way you wanted to live it? Will you wish you had taken the effort, and made the time, to reorganize matters enough so you could have followed your heart until it led you to the love you really wanted? What is past is past, but no matter how old you are, it isn’t too late to change things. If your will is strong enough to do it, you will find a way to focus on yourself first and do what is necessary to find your love. What do you really want your life to count for?

People have many bills and obligations to meet, “necessitating” their need to work where they do, and as much as they do, but what about living the way you would really like to live? Would that be more possible in a smaller home, with a less expensive car, living in a different area or getting a different job? Ask yourself similar questions. Only you know what is right for you and what you can do. Things aren’t going to change and get better unless you make some changes. Focus on what really matters to you.

Sometimes changing employers to find one that might be more women and working mother friendly could help. Working Mother magazine and Fortune magazine's list of best companies for working mothers may be helpful in providing useful information in this regard.

by Ian McNeice Being single means different things to each of us. For some it is a way of life. For a small minority, it is the way we always will be. For most of us, its is a constant battle with optimism. Hope springs eternal they say. We weren't designed to spend our lives alone. For the solitary monk it may be a life of dedication but for us mere mortals, its is a state of being that we hope is temporary. Being single is not easy. It means first of all that we are daily responsible for every decision we make. We can't share decision making because there is no one close enough to share things with. We trust our friends but we will not have formed as close a bond as we do in a long term personal relationship. Therefore it us up to us to decide what we do each day, whether we go to work, what we will have for dinner, where we will go at a weekend, what we do on vacation and where and how we socialize. When we get home in an evening there isn't anyone there (which is why so often we have cats and dogs) to welcome us. We prepare dinner alone (or don't bother), run a bath, take a shower and generally live a solitary existence punctuated by our social life and friends as well as work routine. One of the primary issues about being single is not being able to discuss things on our mind when we want to. In social circles we can to an extent and we may call up friends on the phone but this lacks the deeper understanding and compassion we receive from a close partner in a relationship. We like to play ideas off each other, discuss, talk, think aloud and have pillow talk about the future. All of this is missing when single. Occasional dates or romantic encounters may provide passing closeness but in effect we remain single still. There is something interesting on the TV, but we won't chat about that until we are at work. We have an ailment that worries us, who do we discuss that with? There is an issue with a person at work, what should we do. Friends and family play their part but they don't fill that singleness we are likely to feel. Cooking for one is a painful experience. What is the point of cooking a nice meal if there is no one to share it with. There is a great movie but we will watch it alone. We need to go shopping and get something new for the apartment but we are going to have to do without the fun of deciding together. Then of course there is sex. Sex-for-one is well known to most singles but its generally not what we were designed for. Close relationships offer companionship, understanding, empathy, friendship as well as love and romance and without them, we are pretty much left to our own devices to fill that void. When we are younger there is so much to focus on that it may not be such an issue but as we get older we begin to discover that visiting the wonders of the world alone is deeply dissatisfactory. Being single is a heightened sense because our society emphasizes couples. From meals for two in the grocery store, to paying for single supplements in hotels; much is set against the single person. Why do we pay extra for a single bed when on vacation? The we have our friends who are in couples which does much to heighten our sense of singledom. Dinner parties mean we are excluded due to not having a partner, or we are matched up with some geek we have little in common with by friends desperate to pair us off. Adult society in the West is made up of approximately 33% single people and this is increasing at a remarkable rate. Admittedly in many areas of the service industry, singles are being seen as a new market and opportunities to cash in on single life are steadily coming into the market place. But again it emphasis a state of play we may not wish to be reminded of. When we set off outdoors on a weekend we will encounter many many couples along the way and we find ourselves wondering what it is about them that got them together when we are total treasures that no one appears to discover? Therefore being single means being optimistic. It means keeping positive in the face of adversity. That adversity manifests itself through the thought in the back of our heads that whispers 'what if..'. What if we meet someone tomorrow, what if we spend out lives alone and never meet anyone again, what ever we never fall in love, what if no one actually likes us, what if we were meant to remain single. And it is this whispering that we fight to keep at bay daily by fighting to remain optimistic. Optimism comes from the general knowledge that most of us will meet someone, we will find Mr. or Miss Right soon enough. But as we get older, we start to worry, even start to silently panic. If we are to meet our perfect match it has to happen before we are too old. We would like it to happen whilst we are still young enough. And as anyone in their 30's appreciates, as we get older , so time speeds up. In our twenties, time seemed endless. But as the wrinkles in the corner of our eyes demonstrates, one day we wake up and we are older, much older. And we are still single. Being single is to an extent a triumph,. It means we have avoided the disappointment of dating disasters, wrong choices, and loneliness within a terrible relationship. It means we still have our own choices and our own sense of direction. We have the full sense of self determination and control over destiny. But at the same time it wears us down. It may be hard to admit, but the vast majority of us don't like being single. In fact we hate it. We hate it because we don't get to share. We don't get to make happen the sharp image in our head of the perfect relationship we know is possible with the right partner. We have a never ending well of 'giving' that so far has been ignored. We want to give and we want to please. We wish to love and we want that opportunity. We are ready and willing but we are not allowed. Its almost like being in an isolation cell in prison. Being single heightens our sense of the need to give and it heightens the sense of frustration accordingly. Being single isn't a cornfield full of casual sex, boozy nights, general lack of responsibility and carefree existence over the age of 25. Its a burden that many of us carry. Through failed relationships we have built up a mental list of the things we will never accept again in a relationship and at the same time it provokes and overpowering explanation of what we really do hope for. Being single isn't about choices, it is about circumstances. We know that had we been a certain place, had a certain life, then we probably wouldn't be single. But where we find ourselves today means that we are. Well we are for the time being. By dating we keep our hopes alive. We realize that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And whilst the most recent suitor may not have been the one for us, at least we are heading in the right direction. And that's how many of us cope with being single. We do everything we can to keep our hopes alive. We convince ourselves that being single is by choice and that we are just waiting to meet the right one. And that's true, that's exactly what we are doing. But the 'what if' whispers away. Our body clocks may tick louder, our hair may thin, but we KNOW we will get there in the end. We hope. Being single means living with a sense of frustration that little else can match. We don't have the answers as to why we are alone. We even ask 'why me?' This isn't how we have envisaged our lives, this isn't how we saw our future. So why has it happened? What went wrong. Where did we go wrong? Where are all the nice guys and girls. Maybe they have all been snapped up. Maybe there simply aren't any and we are fooling ourselves. Then we remind ourselves of the few examples of great friends in great relationships and this provides us with the temporary proof we need. And then we begin to question ourselves further. We may even question our own judgment, wondered if we have missed our best opportunity to be in a good relationship. Maybe we are simply too choosey? Maybe it really is all our fault. But of course it isn't. When vacations and national holidays and Christmas or Thanksgiving come along, then we are reminded heavily just what being single feels like. On Valentine's day we are also reminded that we are yet again this year solitary creatures. However this year will be different. We feel it. We have our sights set one on or two potentials and who knows where things may lead. Who knows, by Christmas we could be engaged. Married people often think the grass is greener on the other side. People in bad relationships dream of the freedom of being single. I have been told many times that I don't know how lucky I am to be single. The next time someone says that to me, I will go over and stick my finger in their eye and remind myself indeed how lucky I am that I decided to do that..all by myself. Top Dating Tips

by safe-dating.com

Recently more and more dating sites are being hacked into and user information stolen. So when you do sign up to a dating site make sure you create a email address specially for this purpose so that you can always get rid of it if there is a problem. PASSWORD donot use the one you use to do your online banking with of course. Have a password which you only use for non important sites so that if it does get stolen it will not be a problem. Personal details: No need to give your exact date of birth after all your age is important not the exact day and month you were born. No need to give your exact address a city where you live should suffice. A good approach is to assume all information including your password you are going to give when you sign up on dating sites is going to be in the public domain.

Now some simple rules to follow while dating online to make it safe

Now some simple rules to follow while dating online to make it safe
1]Never give out your real email address or contact details until you have thoroughly checked out and verified the person.

2]Never send any money
.......you have this scenario of this beautiful lady who is ready to come and marry you but does not have money for a passport or visa and needs your money. If you send any money you will never see your money or the lady again. There are a lot of different scenarios created by these cheats another one for example would be avery sick child and they need your urgent help etc etc. The same would apply in case of a handsome millionaire who for some reason suddenly needs your help. Never send any money unless you want to be cheated out of your money.
Reasons for asking you to send money
a]To treat sick child.
b]For visa.
c]For passport application.
d]For airport tax.
e]For airfare [flight costs].
f]For sick mother or father or relative or brother or sister etc.
g]To pay to dating agency to translate and send you emails.
h]To use internet.
i]Lost job etc.
j]Bank charges so that millions of dollars can be transferred to you account.
k]Money for charity project.
l]To pay hotel bill.
The list is not complete if you have come across any new ones please do let us know.

3]Be very careful when people insist on you communicating via their private email address without hardly getting to know you.
Also if they redirect you to another site where you have to pay it is obvious they are after your money and do not want to know you as they could have communicated with you easily using the free services of this site. Please report this to us immediately and donot sign up this will only encourage them to do this more. Be careful they are very manupulative and will give you all kinds of reasons as to why you have to sign up or send money.

4]If suddenly you receive lots of emails telling you how good you are..................be cautious COMMON SENSE please.

5] Read article section regularly
Articles section is updated regularly, please read the articles section at  http://www.safe-dating.com  regularly as we will be posting the latest scam emails. And profiles IDs of scammers who are trying to scam you.

6] Some of these con artists and scammers are very sophisticated and have a lot of free time at their hand so please be careful.

7] If you visit www.google.com and do a search with words like anti scam etc you should get many links.

8] ALARM BELLS should start ringing if in their profile they state they are from a particular country say AMERICA but when you contact them for various reason they are in a Country like Nigeria or Russia or somewhere else from what they have written in their profile. A very commonly used technique by cheats.

Some of the reasons scammer give for not being in the country they specify
1]Went for a business trip and got robbed and have not money to get back.
2]Got robbed visa got stolen and need your help.
3]Rich relative who has millions of pounds has suddenly died and they need your help to get the money out of the country.
Now these are only a few reasons but we can tell you now that if somebody tells you they are in england or usa etc and than say there are
in some other country like nigeria etc they are scammers this is true in 99.99999999999% of cases.

9]Talk on the phone
This is a excellent way to get to know someone better. A call can reveal much about an individual's personality and the way they communicate. Please careful not to give too many of your personal details like your phone number to somebody you do not know that well. Take your time you must feel comfortable and trust has to be built into your relationship over time before you begin giving out your personal information.
The fact they give you say a local UK number does not mean they are in the UK they can easily be in Nigerian. Very easy to set up a call divert read the article.

10]Meeting.
Spend lots of time getting to know the person you really need to know the well before you meet them. Don't be pressured into meeting someone, only meet them if you feel completely comfortable. Always follow your intuition and if the person makes you uncomfortable, stop corresponding with them. You can always find other suitable matches on kissndate.com there are plenty of dates out there. And it is all 100% free.

11]Long distance relationships.
You have a very high probability of get robbed or scammed if you decide to proceed with one in the african subcontinent or certain parts of the soviet union. You will need to be very careful.

12]Scammers changing the way they scam people.
Scammers are now posing more and more as profiles from UK or USA. And give you the impression they live locally till they have taken you fully into their confidence. A simple conversation on the mobile should clarify that but this is not fool proof. But getting them to meet you locally should be further proof. Please use common sense as we donot want to be doing any baby sitting. Also thought the majority of scammers are based aboard there are some local scammers who work in partnership with them so be careful. Also read Get local UK telephone number If you do decide to meet.When you meet, it's a great opportunity to get to know the person even better but make safety your frist priority at all times. Try to follow these simple guidelines: Inform a friend of where you are going, what time, whom you are going with and when you expect to return. Set the meeting in a public place where you are familiar and comfortable. Always take your own car or find your own means of transportation. This way you are able to leave at any time if you do not feel comfortable. Pay attention to all the information the person has told you about and don't be afraid to ask them questions.

We are aware for some people cheating is a way of life. The reason for this is because these people make a lot of money out of this. To give you an idea such scams in the UK alone are thought to cost up to Ј3.5 billion !!!. With such big money involved they are very good indeed. Be very careful and report any suspicious activity to us immediately.

We are aggressively trying to get rid of scammers but some get through. Please email us directly at http://www.safe-dating.com as we are very keen to get rid of this problem. Read the articles section dating_articles.htm . Find articles on safe dating, sexual health, List of scammers who have been caught etc.

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by Ian McNeice